I have been planning to write this post for awhile now, and Jocelyn Green’s post What do you do to make friends? reminded me of it! This is a topic I think everyone can learn from whether you are a military wife or not, but especially military wives, because we move around so much.
I started a group on Facebook about a year ago for wives who are stationed at Robins AFB. It has grown a lot over the year and I have gotten to know a lot of wives. One of the things I hear the most on the group, is how the wives who have been stationed here for several months have yet to make any friends or meet any other military wives. This always surprises me, and I hope that these tips can help other wives who feel the same way.
I have found that the key to making friends is that you have to be a friend first. Even if you are the newbie and have no idea what you may be doing, sometimes you have to take the first step! I know some ladies are shy, and let me tell you I used to be one of the shyest girls, but when I went to college I had to get past it and learn to make friends. That has helped me a lot and prepared me for military life. Sometimes I still find it hard to take that first step, but every time I have, I have found it so worth it!
1. Join a Support Group
I think I have mentioned this in every part of the “Young and in the Military” series so far, but it is so important, and a big help! Look online for military wife support groups. A lot of times once you join you will find other ladies like you who are also stationed at the same base as you.
When I arrived at this base newly married, I did not know what to do with myself. I wanted something to do and I knew volunteering would be something that would be helpful and keep me busy. I went to the Family Readiness Center and found out what areas on the base needed volunteers. I ended up volunteering at the Center itself, making pillow cases for children with deployed parents, and doing other odds and ends jobs. I also signed up to coach 3 and 4 year old soccer on base. I had never coached before, but I watched a video and filled out some paperwork and they made me a coach that day! I made some great friends volunteering in both these areas.
3. Join a Bible Study
There are usually several groups of ladies around base who have started a Bible study, whether they started as a group of friends or maybe fo their husband’s unit. Also, check out the chapel on base. There are usually Bible study groups there that you can sign up for such as, PWOC (Protestant Woman of the Chapel. To see if your base has a PWOC group click HERE.
4. Join a Playgroup
If you have any children, look into joining a play group. If you don’t know of any, google play groups in your area, or see if the ladies at your church have one. It gives you and your child the opportunity to make new friends!
5. Join a Wives Group on Facebook
I know I have mentioned this before in other parts of this series, but this is one thing that has been a big help to me. Usually for most bases there will be a group for wives or spouses for your base or maybe your husband’s unit. The ones we have here are called Wives at Robins AFB and RAFB Spouses.
The group gets together every once in a while and goes out to eat or meets for ice cream or something. It’s a great way to meet friends and it is how I met almost every single one of my friends here. You can also post on the group that you are looking for a work-out buddy a walking buddy, or even just a play date with the kids. A friend of mine posted about working out and we met on the base to work out several times a week, and now that we have gotten to know each other we are great friends! Usually there will always be someone else who has the same interests as you, so why not speak up!
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