So excited to introduce the first post of this new series called: “Dear Deployment…” where readers send in their letters written to deployment. If you are interested in being a part of this series please see instructions here: Dear Deployment Blog Feature.
I thought I was prepared for you. We had about four months notice but since I had never met you before that was not nearly enough time. You came along in our first year of marriage and without being invited. You strung us along never telling us when you would stop and I do not know what to say other then I did not like you very much.
We were told when you were coming but we were never told how long you would be around or how hard your were going to be on us. You did a few nice things: you taught us how strong we are, you allowed us to know what it really means to rely on God, and you confirmed that we were going to make it through anything. I would have preferred you never came along, but I cannot say I am worse for having met you. You helped me figure out some things about myself at a fast pace.
Looking back now, almost nine years later, I know that God used you. You caused 15 months of physical separation, but you created a strong ability to communicate that does not usually happen with newlyweds. So many years later I still do not think I am ready to say thank you, but I can do one thing: forgive you. You did not mean to be so painful and I know you could have been worse. My husband was able to do his job and I was able to support him.
You certainly have a way of bringing a girl to her knees. I lost count of how many nights I spent in weepy prayer. I have heard that the strongest/greatest human emotion is relief and after meeting you I agree.
I am thankful you are behind us but for those who are about to meet you for the first, second, or eighth time I say, be kind to them and teach them what you can.
Denise Hiott is a 32 year old full-time mom, wife, and student. She met her husband while in the Army and they went through their first deployment after she had gotten out of the military. On their two year anniversary they had spent less then two months time together, total. They have been married for over ten years now and have four children. They are always amazed at what God has and is carrying them through.