Deployment Idea 4# – Get to Know Your Spouse Questionnaire

I thought of this idea awhile back and have not had the opportunity to write about it yet. I am very excited about sharing this though and I hope you will enjoy reading about it and using the questions to learn more about your spouse.

During deployments and sometimes just during life, we stop learning or gathering information about our spouse. We get busy and think that once we are married we don’t need to do these things anymore. However, I feel that a good marriage is one where you are consistently learning about and getting to know your spouse. Look at this quote:

“When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies her. He learns her likes, dislikes, habits and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her, he often stops learning about her. If the amount he studied her before marriage was equal to a high school degree, he should continue to learn about her until he gains a college degree, a master’s degree and ultimately a doctorate degree. It is a lifelong journey that draws his heart ever closer to hers.” – Fireproof (the movie)

During deployment it’s often hard to do these things. Communication is sparse, and there isn’t long periods of time where you can just “chat.” I was thinking about this one day and came up with an idea: a list of questions to ask our spouse to get to know them better.

So here is what I did. I printed up a sheet of 20 questions (copied from The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendrick). The picture below only shows a few questions there are 3 pages worth and plenty of room for you to write!

So those of you with a deployed spouse here’s what you do:
1. Print 2 copies of the questionnaire (a total of 6 pages).
2. Fill out one copy with your answers.
3. Stick both copies (your finished one, and the blank one) in an envelope with an addressed and already-stamped envelope and mail it to your spouse. (You could attach these to an email as well, but it’s much more romantic and fun to send it in the mail!)
4. They will get your answers, read them, and then fill out their own copy and send it back to you in the self-addressed envelope you already provided.

It’s very easy, and you saved them time and money by having the envelope already to go. All he they to do is fill it out and send it back!

For those of you with a non-deployed spouse, you can play along too!
1. Print 2 copies of the questionnaire (a total of 6 pages).
2. Sit down with your spouse and fill them out together OR bring them with you on a date and take turns asking and answering.

This is perfect for an upcoming Valentine’s date! Use them to get to know your spouse and then save the questionnaire somewhere safe so you can remember and look back on what your spouse said. I think this is something both spouses will appreciate! Click on the photo to open the questions and print or click here: Get to Know Your Spouse Questionnaire.

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  1. Jennifer Smart says

    How do I get the questionnaire? My husband is currently deployed and I would love to do this fun exercise with him. I am always looking for ways to keep things going between us from even so far away.


  2. says

    Found you on HWC link up. Such a lovely post! Getting to know your spouse better is such a great thing and doing that in writing is even better. Love this!

  3. Bella says

    Great idea! 😉 It’s a fun way of rediscovering your partner. Each answer would probably reveal something that’s equally surprising and delightful.

    Visiting you from the Happy Wives Club link up.


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